This is 40…Final round


I missed the deadline!  Relax, no-one’s getting fired and no-ones sitting in dark corner crying, at least I’m not expecting anyone too.  I’m not in a race against time, for I hate losing.  Besides “the Day” arrived and moved along, almost unknowingly if not for the major Birthday Bash that celebrated this event.  Surprisingly, no eerily long hair sprouted out of my nose and ears.  Turning forty came and went, without leaving any savage markings, unlike a few girls I tried dating in high school.  Anyhow, back to the BASH!, which is the reason for fumbling so close to the finish line.  I was aiming to finish all 40 tidbits of wisdom, but between all the invitations, decorations, considerations, celebrations and a little intoxications,  it wasn’t  realistic expectation to begin with.

Bu I have a real treat for you.  I am going to flood your senses like no meal shown on Masterchef ever would.  I am going to post the last ten snippets of wisdom in my series of forty, ALL AT ONCE! No more waiting in agony, no more checking your inboxes constantly.  When you reach #35, you can just scroll down, like one those awful tele-ads screaming “Wait there’s more!”  See what a nice guy I can be?  Unless of course you’ve read this blog before and you’re a fan of Kanye West and the atrocity that used to be Hannah Montana, you would know better, but enough of that.

So gather round, my amazing children, my trusted readers.  Get nice and comfy, yes grab a goblet of wine, (Why the hell not!) and lend me your ears.  Here’s the last ten.  Focus.

31. Respect people irrespective of their colour, religion, sexual orientation, age or gender.  I’m not saying you need to agree with people or even approve what they are doing, for that would just be stupid.  There are just to many oddities and such a wide variety of loonies running amok amongst the general populace it would actually be impossible.  I’m just saying respect people, for when you do, they might return the favour.

32. Don’t remain a victim in life.  If life brings out the big guns and blast you to smithereens and *insert drum roll* it most probably will happen at some point, you need to dust yourself off, scream “Screw you!” to whatever situation you might find yourself in and get up again.  It’s not about how hard you fall but how quickly you get up. (And I wouldn’t mind taking the credit for coining the phrase, but sometimes other people write great things too.)  Getting up remains the hardest thing to do, but once you’re up again and standing tall, there is just no better feeling in this world of ours.  Bad things happen to a lot of people, that’s life, all kinds of people get hurt, physically and emotionally, but moping and sulking and feeling sorry for yourself is not going to achieve anything.  Nor will it get you laid.  I mean dates.  I will not get you dates.

33. Always treasure the tender relationship you have with your grandparents.  Yes I know they might seem VERY old and may even start to smell weird, but hear this:  When you were still young and cute, they loved you more than they loved us, their own children.  They defended you, spoilt you and supported you with ever little clumsy step you took.  They might not be able throw a ball or run a marathon up the hill, but they love you just as much as that very first day.  Getting old just means you had a few more birthdays than the next guy.  I’m know I’m probably wasting space here, as you two are so absorbed with those  grandparents of yours, you’re forgetting they were our parents first.

34. Always wear clean underwear, or rather, always wear underwear.  You never know what situations you might find yourself in, and then when you end up getting your pants ripped off, you might end up showing a few short comings you never intended too.  Unless you’re that guy from Boogie Nights, but that’s a long shot.  (And a prosthesis, I keep telling myself.)  This lesson is both realistically and metaphorically speaking.  And whilst I’m on the subject, pull up your pants.  If I see those jeans hanging lower than your ass crack, so help me, I will give you a wedgy personally.  And that goes for all your friends, Son and (sigh) all the wannabe boyfriends too, my Princess.  Consider yourself informed.

35. Tattoo’s might seem like a good idea at the time.  It’s not.  It might even seem like the best way to honour/celebrate/eternalise a moment in your life, but before you plunge a coloured needle in your arm, remember.  No f*cking way!  Sorry that came out wrong.  If you consider getting an ink blot on your arm whilst living under my roof…No f*cking way.  Sorry I’m really messing this up with f-bombs, but whilst trying to be the sensitive, understanding parent, whilst dishing out advise, when it comes to tattoo’s I have a base programming error.  Maybe just remember “No f*cking way” and deal with it.

36.  Relationships is hard work.  And not in the romantic kind of way you see in Hollywood movies where two people can’t decide on which side of the bed to sleep or what colour to paint the room.  Even though you get those moments too.  It’s hard work based on good ole compromise, commitment and shit.  If it wasn’t difficult, divorce lawyers would not have been able to pay rent.  And half of the comedians on earth wouldn’t have any material to make us laugh.  But it’s worth it, the hard work.  It’s worth every drop of blood, sweat and tears I’ve ever lost.  What’s that love?  I meant to say it’s worth every piece of joy, happiness and bliss I’ve received.

37. I did mention that you need a great partner in life, but the lesson is so important I’m repeating it again.  (I’m trying to gain some browning points after number 36.) I’m sorry to mention the fact that you might never find another human as great and amazing as your mother, but be strong and hold on, for if you find someone who is even  half as wonderful and funny as she is, then you’ll still be the luckiest human alive.

38. Have faith.  And don’t worry I’m not getting preachy.  But I know and understand that believing in something unseen is one of the fundamentals of being human.  The Lord has carried me through some of the darkest moments of my life and even though I might not be His poster child,  I know that my belief gives me strength, it exposes hope and gives me a sanctuary from the daily struggles of life.  But God is a lot of things, but he is not a convenience store.  Don’t just run to Him in desperate time.  He’s a friend, a companion if you will (and not the awkward one, He’s the cool one.)  Just take my word for it.  He wants to be part of your life, so let Him.

39. and 40.  And these are the most important lessons of all.  It’s not really something I can tangibly explain, for the lessons are still being taught.  The teachers are my own two children.  Son and Princess.  You constitute my greatest success in life, it’s me reaching the Everest of humanity.  Your arrivals are both the greatest and most humbling things to ever happen to me.  I learn something from you every day, something about myself, things about life.  You inspire me to be more than a mere mortal man or a great father.  I’m committed to be the best father and greatest husband to have ever lived…  (Sorry, but I’ve only recovered from hysterics now, twenty minutes later, as this must be the funniest thing I’ve ever written!  Irony gets me very time!)  Anyhow you’ve exposed a love that I never knew existed or was even capable of.  And these series of posts is trying to return the favour…

So there it is, THIS IS 40, all done and dusted.  (Better late than never.)  The forty lessons I’ve learned in my life, thus far.  I’m just glad that I’m not fifty for I’m freshly out of any more advise.  Arriving at the end of these series of posts and pressing the publish button creates a bit of unexpected nostalgia.  Alas turning 40 is yesterday’s news.

I’m keen to return to more of my general ramblings on important, relevant, newsworthy and even controversial issues, like who was the sick idiot who decided to fund a movie like Grown ups 2, when there are millions starving across the globe, and even more people who now requires urgent counselling to try and erase that piece of crap from memory.

14 thoughts on “This is 40…Final round

  1. What great advice for your children, each & every single one! I laughed out loud at #35. We used to tell our children that if they ever decided to get a tattoo, it had better be their new address! They must have thought we were serious because they are both now adults & ink free! Thanks for sharing all of this wonderful advice for it applies to so many ages. Happy 40th btw. Enjoy the ride to 50!


  2. Congrats! on b’day and 40 points of wisdom. I did “grab a goblet of wine” as suggested but it’s 6.40 am here where I live. However, I’m not one to ignore good advice…


  3. Happy Birthday! It’s a good time to be 40.

    And, yes, I have done some more New Things, but life has thrown so much at me recently I am never going to be able to catch back up. I will do something New and post that, instead.

    No. 38.


  4. Happy Birthday.
    These are the best 10 I’ve ever read anywhere. Nodded assent for every point. Point 32 hit home run for me – for a long time I was one of those tragic victims until one day life whacked me and taught me that invaluable lesson – sh** happens.
    Lovely post.


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